One of the biggest dating questions
which haunt women is whether her boyfriend is ready to commit. She may be
sticking around with him for almost a couple of years now, hoping that he will
make up his mind and still waiting for the elusive engagement ring. If you
don’t want this to happen to you, learn to pick up ten signs which tell you
that he’s not going to propose marriage in a hurry.
1.He Never Discusses Marriage This is
perhaps the first hint that should start ringing warning bells in your mind.
Your boyfriend cannot be caught dead talking about marriage as an institution
or even commenting on commercials for wedding products and services. He won’t
mention it even if his own brother is getting married and he is going to be the
best man. His aversion to the M-word should be indication enough that marriage
does not figure anywhere in his near future.
2.He Is Hugely Ambitious
(Overambitious) Follow Us Guys whose only mission in their lives is to reach
the top of their professional ladder are likely to take their time settling
down. This is because emotional commitment to a partner might force them to cut
down on their working hours and make networking with business contacts or
frequent out-of-town trips difficult. Though this is not to say that married guys
don’t find success – witness President Obama and Bill Gates – super ambitious
men who are perpetually looking for the next bigger and better thing are more
likely to consider marriage as leading to professional stagnation.
3.All His Friends Are Single This is as
sure a sign as any that your boyfriend is not going to propose marriage. If you
notice that his social circle is exclusively made of bachelors and divorced
men, it is evident that he is uncomfortable around married couples and has no
plans to join their ranks in near future.
4.He Has Strong intimate Needs A guy
who places great emphasis on sex and considers it the most important part of a
relationship is unlikely to settle for a single partner. Gone are the days when
men could be baited into marriage on the lure of sex. The dissociation of sex
and marriage as well as intimate freedom for women has also made it easier for
men to keep sleeping around unless they wish to marry for other reasons. And if
your boyfriend has a large intimate appetite, it is unlikely to be satisfied by
a single person. He will sooner or later get tired of being with you and move
on to someone else he can go to bed with.
5.He Lives Out Of A Suitcase Men with
unstable living conditions usually have priorities like work and travel which
are bound to clash with a stable married life. You may be thrilled to have a
high-flying war correspondent or wildlife photographer as a boyfriend, but such
people are unlikely to settle down to tame domesticity. Far easier to spot –
and avoid – are guys who are in and out of jobs or in trouble with the law and
thus perpetually on the move. Rather look for men who have stable lives since
they are the ones more likely to be looking for stable relationships.
6.He Does Not take You To Meet His
Family This is an unmistakable sign that a guy is not considering marriage even
though he may be dating someone. Men usually discuss their families only with
those who are close enough to be let into their inner lives. If your boyfriend
has never suggested that you meet his parents and even appears to be
uncomfortable talking about them to you, then perhaps he is not ready to make
you an intrinsic part of his life.
7.You Don’t Figure In His Plans When
talking about his future, does your guy merely discuss his goals of starting a
business someday and are his dreams limited to retiring by the sea with his
very own beach house and luxury boat? If so or something similar, then this is
an indication that you are not part of his future plans and thus unlikely to be
his wife any time soon. Unless of course, he goes through a life-changing
experience and realizes the value of a committed relationship which is again
putting too much store by chance and therefore not worth wasting your life for.
8.He Doesn’t Ask You About Yours In a
reversal of the above point, a guy unwilling to commit will also be
uninterested to know about your life goals and hopes for the future. The
present- comfortably carefree and uncomplicated – is good enough for him. He
does not want to know if you want to eventually settle in the suburbs or how
many kids would you like to have and whether you would prefer little girls or
boys. Hell, he doesn’t even want to know where you have always wanted to go for
your honeymoon! If you find all this true in case of your boyfriend, then you
can kiss your dreams of marrying him goodbye and start looking for a more
suitable guy.
9.He Is Divorced While divorced men are
technically single and thus seeming candidates for a committed relationship, if
your guy has gone through a particularly messy divorce, then probably he cannot
bear the thought of marrying again. To be sure about this, pry around gently to
see how badly he feels about his breakup and whether the scars are deep enough
to be permanent. Other than emotional issues, a divorced man may also be caught
up in child support and alimony so as to make any further commitments
completely out of the question.
10.He Is Not Forthcoming About Personal
Information Have you ever wondered why your boyfriend is always vague when you
ask him about his work and where he lives? You might have a rough idea that he
is into finance and that he commutes from the suburbs but if he is unwilling to
clearly share his personal information with you, probably he has something to
hide – a spouse or a lover maybe. Or more likely he is determined to keep you
away from the rest of his personal life. Not exactly marriage material, is he?
No one can say for sure what goes on in a person’s mind and what influences
his/her decisions. But if your boyfriend displays all or most of the above
signs, then more likely than not, he is not yet ready to propose marriage to
you.
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